2013/06/16

Report of Finding Why Trying to Be Happy Makes Us Unhappy?

    I read the composition online, its title is Does Trying to Be Happy Makes Us Unhappy?. The author is Adam Grant, Wharton professor. In the first paragraph, the introductory paragraph, the author mentioned that citizens in the United States are granted three inalienable rights: life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. And he also mentioned a country, Bhutan. I think it is very interesting. Because Bhutan is famous for the index of happiness. It is ingenious to take the kingdom of Bhutan for example. He also used a question that if searching for happiness actually prevents us from finding it. I think it is an affirmative sentence that Adam wanted to persuade us but not a question. And he told us that there is a reason. In the next paragraph, he gave an example again; Tom is the character. It let his idea be convincing!
     For one thing, the author mentioned the word study. It means there are some studies that can prove the idea. However, he talked about Tom , a savant who can speak many languages. Adam described Tom vividly when he said Tom speaks half a dozen languages, from Chinese to Welsh. In the beginning of Tom's story, Adam told us Tom was unsatisfied in the college time when he found he did not want to major in the computer science actually. Then, Tom became obsessed with happiness. He always wanted to pursue his ideal career and the culture he thought perfectly match for his interests and values. It is related to the topic. Tom is a person who tried to be happy. There are a lot of details about Tom's experience for changing his jobs and place he lived.
    The careers and countries couldn't fulfill him. He moved to many countries and changed his jobs as long as he felt the path couldn't make him happy. On the other hand, even if he found he was suitable for the job he didn't like the country or the culture such as Beijing's. So he kept moving to other countries because he hoped to make himself happy. In addition, Tom even worked on a website to help couples spend more quality time together. Unfortunately, he failed to feel happy. There are many details about Tom's story in the paragraphs.
    In the fourth paragraph, the author just talked about reasons Tom couldn't feel happy. It also told us why a person who trying to be happy make himself or herself unhappy even though he or she tries hard. From the fourth paragraph to the eighth paragraph, Adam wrote the main body finally! He indicated that the first mistake of Tom was trying to figure out if he was happy. Adam said when we pursue happiness, our goal is to experience more joy and contentment. But when we are making progress, we also need to compare our past happiness to our current happiness. I agreed with the idea. Adam then mentioned Csikszentmihalyi and a flow state. It makes the composition convinced too. The second error was in overestimating the impact of life circumstances on happiness. The third misstep was in pursuing happiness alone. It noted that a study shows the greater the value people placed on happiness, the more lonely they felt every day for the next two weeks. At the eighth paragraph, Adam said that The final mistake was in looking for intense happiness. It is the most important part for the topic. Sometimes we may forget to cherish everything we have. If we are always looking for intense happiness, we will become very unsatisfied. Adam adds some details to support the main idea.

    Finally, instead of pursuing happiness alone, Tom fell in love and got married. Tom became happy because he followed the advice of psychologists Ken Sheldon and Sonja Lyubomirsky: "Change your actions, not your circumstances." Tom don't evaluating his happiness daily and hunting for his dream job. He is finding flow and experiencing daily satisfaction in helping his wife set up a company. The author gave us a very relevant example, Tom's story. I think it is a good composition. It is very detailed and easy for me to read. I can totally understand the idea and the author's viewpoints. As the great philosopher John Stuart Mill once wrote, "Those only are happy who have their minds fixed on some object other than their own happiness." This ending is also a good quote that is connected to the topic.

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